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How to Communicate Emotional Capacity in the "I can't even" Moments
Jun 21, 2020
Looking back on the past few weeks, we've had more than our fair share of "I can't even" moments. We've been riding the waves of love & business, as we navigate the ever-changing terrains of our internal and external environments.
What is an "I can't even" moment?
According to our trusted friends at Urbandictionary.com, it's the complete, sudden onset of the cessation of brain activity, brought under the presence of acute stress, which fully affects the person only a short time after it strikes them. Said person, under the duress of the symptoms, demonstrate their affliction by alerting to others that they "can't even," in reference to their inability to deal with the symptoms, or their inability to perform simple actions which have been made impossible by their afflictions.
Basically, it's a feeling of overwhelm, a lack of desire to deal with something, or a disbelief about something or someone to the extent that you "can't...
Understanding Your Needs & Getting Them Met
Jun 21, 2020
Finish the sentence: "in order to feel loved and supported, I need ___________."
Were you able to finish the sentence?
Maybe? Maybe not? If not, don't feel bad...most people have no clue how to finish that sentence and have never really given it thought. Hell, for a long time, I didn't. And to be honest, there are times when I still feel challenged with understanding my needs and stating them.
What I've found in myself and in clients is that the suppression of our needs is one of the biggest contributors to burnout, i.e stress, resentment, residual emotions, expectation, health issues, exhaustion, etc.
I learned this lesson after suppressing emotions for nearly 30 years.
I couldn't seem to figure out:
- Why I always felt pulled in a million different directions (cough cough, people pleasing)
- Why I felt drained of energy on days when I had slept, eaten, and hydrated well
- Why I felt resentful toward certain people, even...
