Finish the sentence: "in order to feel loved and supported, I need ___________."
Were you able to finish the sentence?
Maybe? Maybe not? If not, don't feel bad...most people have no clue how to finish that sentence and have never really given it thought. Hell, for a long time, I didn't. And to be honest, there are times when I still feel challenged with understanding my needs and stating them.
What I've found in myself and in clients is that the suppression of our needs is one of the biggest contributors to burnout, i.e stress, resentment, residual emotions, expectation, health issues, exhaustion, etc.
I learned this lesson after suppressing emotions for nearly 30 years.
I couldn't seem to figure out:
Why I always felt pulled in a million different directions (cough cough, people pleasing)
Why I felt drained of energy on days when I had slept, eaten, and hydrated well
Why I felt resentful toward certain people, even...